When we fall in love the whole world is ours. We observe the world through pink glasses, the sky is blue, the trees are greener, the colors are more intense, everything is easier and more beautiful, and life gets a new meaning… Aroused emotions, volcanoes of passion, sharpening senses… All this makes us feel younger and healthier. Such reactions are not a delusion, because our body and brain experience an incredible change when we feel the “butterflies in the stomach”. Then we change completely, we experience a metamorphosis, physical and emotional.
What science says?
There are scientific discoveries that at the moment of falling in love almost twelve different areas of the brain are activated, that is, the brain and the body wake up. Recording by magnetic resonance shows that there is a neural zone that first reacts when we see the person we are in love with. The impulses further transmit to different areas of the brain that activate the secretion of the hormone, which leads to a series of changes, both physically and psychologically. When Amor’s arrow hits us, releases the hormone of happiness – dopamine, which, among other things, promotes the spread of pupils. Dopamine stimulates the nerve endings of our eyes. Muscles begin to crack, and pupils are spreading… This has been proved by many years of research by Norwegian scientists.
Love is often manifested in different ways. For one, it represents a sense of peace and tranquility, and for others, it is filled with great passion. Here’s how you can surely know that you have fallen in love.
He/she is special
In a state of love, the partner becomes unique. In addition, a person has the impression that he will never feel a similar passion towards another person in his life. The cause of this is an increased concentration of dopamine in the brain, a chemical that is partly responsible for attention and focus.
Further Reading: 10 Ways To Find Love And Be Loved As You Want
He/she is perfect
How many times have you heard that love is blind? It’s not just a phrase, there’s a lot of truth in it. In love, people often glorify the partners’ positive sides, neglecting all his faults. They also focus on trivial occurrences or something that reminds them of a loved one and dreams of nice memories. Dopamine play this key role, which is in charge of increasing the memory under the influence of a new stimulus.
My life is in chaos
In love, we often feel physical and mental instability. Happiness, euphoria, excess energy, insomnia, loss of appetite, trembling, speeding up the work of the heart and breathing … All this is in love. And the smallest triangle of such an unstable state can cause people to feel distressed, panic or despair. The same mood swings occur in drug addicts. That’s why love is one of the forms of addiction.
Further Reading: Love vs. Infatuation – 21 Tell-Tale Signs
Obsession with him/her
On average, in love, we spend up to 85 percent of our waking time thinking about our partner. Forced thought, what is called this form of an obsessive-compulsive disorder, is due to a reduced serotonin concentration.
If we could be together all the time
Emotional dependence is characteristic for the lovers. It includes possessiveness, jealousy, fear of refusal and anxiety due to separation.
Further Reading: 6 Reasons Why Most People Are Afraid of Love
I want to stay together forever
In love, we will always find an excuse to be next to each other and dream about a common future together.
I’ll give you everything
Although otherwise, they don’t have a highly developed empathy, lovers often feel compassion for the loved one, and they feel their happiness, aspirations or pain as their own and are willing to sacrifice everything for that person.
Further Reading: 50 Inspirational Love Quotes and Sayings
Will this suit him/her?
In love, people are ready to change their daily priorities, change habits, dress style, behavior. They are ready for everything, just to be as compatible as a loved one.
Sex is not everything
The desire for sex is important in a state of love, but the emotional connection is more important than satisfying purely physical needs. One study showed that 64 percent of those in love didn’t agree with the statement from the questionnaire that said: “Sex is the most important part of my relationship with my partner.”
I cannot control myself
In love, people feel that they cannot control their outbursts of passion, which they often admit.
Further Reading: 3 Reasons why Love is Not Enough for a Relationship
We aren’t afraid to take risks with the person we love
Taking risks with a partner strengthens the connection between two people and makes the connection more firm. The research has shown that such partners feel that their love makes them more protected and happier.
“Love is like war: easy to begin but very hard to stop.” – Honoré de Balzac